Last week we focused on having an attitude of gratitude. We’ve all heard it and yes, we all buy into the importance of having an attitude of gratitude. But somewhere in between what we know in our brain and what we feel in our heart can be a bit of a disconnect. To be sure, starting in the brain is not a bad place to start. Habits need to be formed, disciplines need to be followed! Having gratitude is a huge one to work on. We just want to help you to push it to the next level!
The next time you notice a “yes, but”, just be aware of it! Awareness is the first step to being able to change anything. Notice when you say the right words, but feel a hint of …. something else….dare I say….ingratitude? You know: “thank you for the lovely surprise gift” and inside you’re wishing it were something a bit different. Or “thank you for bringing me lunch” and you’re wondering why the other didn’t know you’re allergic? Or “thank you for doing the dishes” and inside there’s a snarky remark just trying to get out. Or even thanking God for something He has done for you, but following with a “why couldn’t it have happened this way”? Those are all what I call “yes, but”s. Just try to be aware of them.
And then you know what comes next. That’s right. Try to turn each “yes, but” into real gratefulness. Recognize the gift, recognize the love, appreciate the thought, appreciate the gift. It just takes practice! Let your gratitude be real, not just a habit!
Mat Chat for Little Ninjas and Golden Dragons:
Did you give your mom a special Mother’s Day hug last week? I hope so! Think about all the things your mom does for you. It’s important to be grateful for what she does. The next time you feel angry because she’s telling you “no”, try to think about all the things she DOES let you do, and DOES for you! I know it’s hard – but when we can stay thankful, we are much happier! If you didn’t give your mom a big hug on Sunday, I want you to be sure and give her one today. In fact, even if you did — go and give her another one now! Say “thank you mom, for bringing me to karate, and for ALL the things you do for me”! (hopefully some of you got some extra hugs in!)
Mat chat for Tigers and Juniors
When you say “thank you” to someone, is there often a “yes, but” in the back of your mind? For instance, if someone gives you a gift that you’re not crazy about, do you say “thank you” but think to yourself “I wish it were xxx”? Or when you thank your parents for bringing you somewhere, is there sometimes a “yes, but I wish I could’ve gone somewhere else”? Or let’s say you’re working on the gratitude packet and you can come up with some things to grateful for, but right behind those thoughts come thoughts of things you wish were different. That’s gratitude with a “yes, but”. Try to be aware of all those “yes, but”s. They take away from having an attitude of gratitude. Gratitude is so important – it affects your family, your friends, even how you do in school! We want you to develop a REAL attitude of gratitude and get rid of those “yes, but”s!