We’re all at least somewhat familiar with the popular poem from the bible that is often read at weddings.
It’s interesting that the very first descriptive word of love is patience. Hmmmm, must be that it’s a pretty important aspect to love.
What do we need patience for?
I know no one actually has to ask that!
We all come as a mixed bag of good stuff and not so good stuff. You have to take the not so good stuff along with the good stuff, or else you’ll be very lonely.
Yes, it’s true people can change. But the ONLY person YOU can change is YOU. So you need to get used to that not-so-good stuff in your friend. And maybe have a little compassion for what they have to put up with in you – to help motivate you to work on something you know irritates your friend.
Is patience a muscle?
In January we showed the kids a Class Dojo video which teaches a growth mindset. It’s really important to understand that we all can grow and changed and that who we are is not FIXED.
In the video they had the brain doing exercises to get stronger in math.
But we can think of everything we want to improve as a “muscle” that can be exercised.
How to exercise patience?
The next time you’re late and stuck in traffic, think “this is a perfect opportunity to exercise my patience muscle.” Ok, that may be like jumping straight to world champion muscle building.
How about the next time you’re waiting in the grocery line behind someone who’s having trouble searching for all the loose coins in her large tote bag?
Or when your child is all excited about something that he is desperately trying to tell you about, but having a hard time spitting the words out. Breathe, give him time to collect his thoughts (and exercise his own patience muscle) without jumping in and forming the words for him.
Every problem is an opportunity
That’s one of the mottoes that Sam Lariosa, our mentor in Michigan, lives by. Every problem is an opportunity.
In this case, every time you naturally would go to losing patience, is an opportunity to build your patience “muscle”. Take advantage of it, develop it, and it will impact everyone around you.
Kids learn from their primary teacher – YOU. And they learn more from what you DO and how you ACT, than what you say.
So as you’re strengthening your patience muscle, they’ll be watching and learning as well.
One more note
If you want to help your child develop patience, give them opportunities to exercise their patience muscles.
Intentionally providing opportunities to wait for things is an act of love to a child. We need to learn patience and self-control at an early age. Start small, and they’ll learn.
For a short article on teaching kids patience, click here.
What’s so special about Warrior Week?
Hopefully people enjoy coming out and gathering with greater numbers than they normally do, whether it’s to watch a grading, attend a shiai (tournament), or enjoying all the delicious food there always is at our potlucks!
But Warrior Week can be a unique opportunity to learn some life lessons.
Being invited to grade offers a lesson in planning and preparing: bringing in the required paperwork, completing required written tests and character sheets. As your children get older you can begin to shift the responsibility over to them.
(We apologize for the delay in some grading invitations going out this time. Thank you weather! We’ll allow extra time to get your paperwork in.)
Shiai (for us, it means friendly tournament!)
The shiai are an important opportunity you don’t want to miss. Watch your son or daughter carefully to see if they are behaving up to your expectations and if any emotions are coming up during the tournament. How do they handle winning? How do they handle losing? Did something seem unfair to them? The drive home will be a wonderful opportunity to address all of these things. Many critical life lessons or skills have only rare opportunities to develop or address. The shiai during Warrior Week might be one such time.
If you are an adult karate-ka — this is an opportunity for YOU, too! Notice what comes up, what feelings arise. Maybe you’ve never been to a shiai and you’re nervous about going. Why? What’s that about? Push yourself! Broaden your experience! Maybe the opposite is true. You can’t wait to go and kick butt! Really? Examine that!
Let’s eat together!
We want to encourage everyone to come to the potluck on Saturday. It’s always a great time to socialize, have the kids “on stage” (developing courage!), as well as learn new things about karate, our specific style, or some other topic we feel is important to share with you.
All students are asked to wear their gi to the potluck (pants and a t-shirt during lunch, adding the gi top and belt after eating), as we will have the classes do demonstrations after we eat.
Looking forward to a great week next week!