I could also have called this Humility: Part 2.
You may think that the humble person is boring and weak while the proud person is strong and confident. So you might have a different answer from me. The truth is, it depends on degrees. But no one wants to be around a know-it-all, someone who never lets you get a word in edgewise and is only interested in their own accomplishments. Right? That might sound like an extreme, but how many people have you met that only want to talk about themselves?
Power Under Control
On the other hand, we all like being around a humble person. After all, it gives us a chance to shine! There’s a clue right there, that we don’t want to be so humble that we encourage others to be self-centered. Remember – power under control. Not doormat.
Mat chat ideas we shared with the kids
In thinking who they like to be around, we pointed out that no one wants to be around someone who brags and boasts. We all tend to like people who honestly show who they are and what they can do — especially when they are willing to show their faults. Humility is never putting yourself down to get sympathy — it’s being honest, and not putting yourself higher OR lower than you really are!
The hardest thing in the world can be to admit you made a mistake; to admit you are wrong. But the truth is that when you make a mistake, that is an opportunity you don’t want to miss out on! It is an opportunity to learn. Humility is the foundation of karate. Humility is the foundation of all learning. You can’t learn anything if you think you already know everything. You can’t learn anything if you think you can already do everything! We need to stay humble. Making a mistake and letting someone know is being humble. Admitting you are wrong is a lesson in humility.
Sometimes when we make a mistake we have caused a rift between us and someone else — we have caused a relationship to be harmed. Being humble means you are more concerned with your relationship than you are about protecting your self image. So when you make a mistake that concerns someone else – tell that person, apologize to that person. That is true humility. And that’s how we can restore relationships.
Little Ninjas and Golden Dragons
Sometimes it takes humility to tell the truth. It might be hard to answer some questions honestly – like “who took the last cookie?”
It’s important to always tell the truth. You want the people who love you to be able to trust you. If you tell a lie to your mom, that means she can’t trust you, and you’ve broken your relationship with her. When you love someone, you want to have a good relationship with that person. You want them to trust you. That’s why it’s important to always tell the truth so that people can trust you.
For Little Ninjas and Golden Dragons
We’re going to wrap up this theme of humility and talk about allowing others to get noticed!
Raise your hand if you like to be heard? Raise your hand if you like to share what you’ve learned? (if they all raise their hand – gee! Everybody does!) That’s great! But we need to be careful that we’re letting others do the same thing. We need to be careful to wait our turn.
We want to care about others, and we need to show it by what we DO. When we interrupt, or want to be the center of attention, even going so far as to throw a temper tantrum, that is stealing someone else’s chance to be heard!
Having humility is letting others tell their story and waiting quietly until they finish. And then asking if you can tell your story.
Tigers and Juniors:
The first American to climb Mount Everest was Jim Whittaker in 1963. The Tibetan born guide who enabled him to make the climb was Nawang Gombu. They each tried to get the other to be the first to reach the summit! Finally they both stepped to the summit at the same time.
When you are truly humble, you are more concerned about others than you are about yourself.
Selfishness and feelings of superiority – or arrogance – actually divides people. Humility unites us. If we want to live peacefully, happily with those around us, sometimes it means giving up our right to be right. Being humble, and showing grace and gentleness to others, goes a long way towards keeping those around us happy. While we never want to budge on things that are truly important, or let ourselves be abused by others, sometimes it’s wise to just let small things go and not argue about them.
For the people we care about most – we should be in competition to see who can be last – as Jim Whittaker and Nawang Gombu were both trying to be last!