Next month’s theme: I CAN BE COURAGEOUS!
Training in the martial arts is all about overcoming obstacles. Whether defending oneself against an attack, or fighting an inner voice that keeps us from being the best we can be, we are overcoming obstacles.
Every time we want to make a change, whether in our behavior or in our mindset, it takes courage. It is always easier to continue on the path we’ve always been on, keeping the habits that we’ve become comfortable with.
This month we’re asking parents to spend time helping their children develop courage in different ways.
If you can become aware yourself when you allow fear or insecurity to cause you to hesitate, or not do something you really want to do, you will be better able to model courage for (and talk about it with) your kids. Even though we aren’t developing awareness for our challenges this month, we encourage you to do exactly that.
We want to be guided by love in how we live our lives. Many think the opposite of love is hate. In truth, the opposite of love is fear. If we can get a handle on our own fears, we can better help our children navigate and overcome their fears.
Adults, I’d like to encourage you to go deeper in eliminating fear having control over your life. Journaling is a great way to get to know who we are and what makes us tick. If we look at our negative emotions, there is often a fear underlying them. If we find a fear that is behind whatever negative emotion we’re trying to deal with, we can then tackle the fear.
Many fears can be overcome just by looking at them, and seeing the lie behind the fear. For instance, behind many fears is a lie that we’re not good enough, that we aren’t worthy, that we aren’t loved. So tackle the lie and know that you ARE good enough, you ARE worthy and you ARE loved! You may find your fear evaporate, and with it the negative emotion.
Obviously, this has limited application — but be brave and use it where is applies!
Having courage to overcome our fear enables us to try new things, grow, and thrive.
The stronger our “courage” muscle becomes, the less impact fear will have over our lives. The best way to develop our “courage” muscle is to exercise it! Just to clarify: we’re never going to eliminate fear; what we CAN do is develop our courage to be stronger than our fears and insecurities.
Most importantly, celebrate when you or your child are brave this month!